I have an exciting announcement (at least, it’s exciting to me).
At long last, I can reveal the jacket for my new book The Four Tendencies! We worked long and hard on the design, the colors, and the subtitle. I hope you love it as much as I do. (But please, if you don’t love it, don’t tell me. Done is done.)
Now the book really feels real.
It has been endlessly fascinating to explore the Four Tendencies—to identify patterns, to gather strategies for each Tendency to use, to read people’s reports from their own lives. I created this framework—yet I must admit, I’ve been surprised by how accurate it has proved to be.
If you’re intrigued by the book The Four Tendencies and know you’ll want to read it when it comes out, I very much appreciate pre-orders — they really do make a difference for authors, by creating buzz among booksellers, the media, and readers. So if you think you’d be interested in the book, and you have the time and inclination, you can pre-order from one of the retailers below:
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Interview: Amy Blankson.
Amy Blankson is a person who knows a lot about happiness and good habits. Remarkably, she’s the only person to be named as a “Point of Light” by two presidents (President Bush and President Clinton). What a credential — a two-time Point-of-Light! I get a big kick out of that.
Her new book just hit the shelves, The Future of Happiness: 5 Modern Strategies to Balance Productivity and Well-being in the Digital Era.
I was eager to hear what she had to say about happiness and habits.
Gretchen: You’ve done fascinating research. What’s the most significant thing you’ve concluded on the subject of habits?
Amy: I’ve learned that, despite being highly sophisticated human beings, we regularly make irrational decisions that move us further from our goals.
We have just enough information at our fingertips to think that we have thought through an idea well; however, on closer examination, there are major gaps in our thought processes (called illusory knowledge). For example, as you look at each of these pictures below, your brain begins to add shapes and lines that are hinted at but don’t actually exist.
The brain does the same thing each time we are faced with a decision, ...
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Update: Elizabeth’s new podcast Happier in Hollywood launches on May 18! Also, I just finished first-pass pages for my book The Four Tendencies, which is now available for pre-order. (If you’re inclined to buy the book, it’s a big help to me if you pre-order.)
We read from Dani Shapiro’s memoir Hourglass: Time, Memory, Marriage.
Expressing regret — “I’m sorry”
Accepting responsibility — “I was wrong”
Making restitution — “What can I do to make it right?”
Genuinely repenting — “I’ll try not to do that again”
Requesting forgiveness — “Will you please forgive me?”
You can find the website SorryWatch here.
Happiness Hack: If you want to collect a memento when traveling, buy spices. If you’re looking for the site about reading books related to travel destinations, it’s Longitude Books: Recommended Reading for Travelers.
Interview: Sherry Lansing. Check out Stephen Galloway‘s biography, Leading Lady: Sherry Lansing and the Making of a Hollywood Groundbreaker. Gosh, she is really a wise person.
In the photo, you can see me holding up ...